How does a criminal look like? “Young and well built” can never be the answer to it. Yet we keep up our assumptions of a person being guilty or innocent merely by his age and appearance. Now this is not just disappointing in our part, but also quite disturbing. A brave college girl talks of one such incidence in which she was eve teased by a man in a running bus. But as she complained, she was rather assured by her co-passengers that it’s her, who misunderstood. Since the man she accused is a father of two.
You can read Samya’s full FB post here
“I was sexually harassed today. Yes, harassed by a man around 40 years old, while I was traveling back home in a Bus, filled with 30-35 people. While I was taking naps sitting on the second last seat of the bus, the man made inappropriate moves towards me from the seat behind me.
The moment I realized, I stood up from my seat, yelled and asked for his ID Proof, to which he obviously refused. I secured support from my co-passengers. He apologized. My co-passengers asked me to accept it, and let it go.
But I decided otherwise. I decided to not let it go. I decided to not let an audacious eve-teaser to go free merely by apologizing. And why to let it go? To allow him to make ‘apology’, a weapon, to get away? Because Eve-teasing is not that big an offense? To wait for him to convert into a rapist? Like really? EVEN A MINOR INAPPROPRIATE CONDUCT TOWARDS A WOMAN WITHOUT HER CONSENT, IS ACTIONABLE.
I asked the bus driver to stop the bus on the next closest Police Station. I gained the support of a couple of my Co-passengers, and I am really grateful to them.
I went to the Police Station. I gave a written complaint. The procedures I was made to abide by in the Police Station, were too not co-operative. Also, being a law student, I realized everything written in the Criminal Procedure Code is purely fictional. The accused was handed over to the Police. The FIR was lodged.
BUT. But the happenings did not really come to end. After a few distances were covered by the bus, the bus was occluded by some of accused’s acquaintances. They tried intimidating me, threatening me. Pointing to my character, they even professed that the accused is a father of two children and is, therefore, innocent. And even went on alleging I must be goofing around with various guys every now and then, therefore my allegations have no sense of veracity. And only because he happens to be a father of two children he shall be presumed innocent. APPLAUSE!
But, no matter what, I am and I always will be glad that I did not let it go. And every time anything of such sort happens, I will ALWAYS fight for it. Because eve-teasing is not a small offense.
P.S: DON’T WAIT FOR AN EVE-TEASER TO CONVERT INTO AN RAPIST. TAKE ACTIONS EVEN FOR THE SLIGHTEST INAPPROPRIATE CONDUCT DONE TOWARDS YOU.
More Power To You girl!
A rapist is a criminal by his deeds, but we set him free on the basis of his age. Are not both incidents quite similar? If anyone looks at our sister or daughter with an ill intention, we don’t hesitate to break his skull. But when something as ridiculous as eve teasing happens with someone else’s sister or daughter, we start taking into account the culprit’s age and the number of children he fathers. Thus we are just encouraging antisocials. When at all is this going to change is still an unsolved puzzle.
Read Samya’s post here :